LET’S STAY TOGETHER

Here we are headed into the end of 2017, looking forward to what it will bring.   Though it may not be possible to predict specifically all that will happen this year is done, we believe that it is possible to predict some of the successes and happenings. It’s possible to do if we first make some decisions to make some things happen. We’re not talking about making New Year’s resolutions that are fleeting by January 30, but of decisions backed by thought and planning, which will produce action and our desired results.

Have you made any decisions about the the end of this year regarding yourself, your marriage, or your mate? Have you decided that by the end of this year you will achieve things that you have dreamed about in the past but didn’t act in a way that would bring them to fruition? Have you decided that during the rest of the year, at least once every other month you will enjoy one or two nights away from home together? Have you decided that the the end of this year will be  prosperous, powerful, and fulfilling within the marriage relationship that God has ordained for you? Well, all of that means you will have to make it happen. Marriage is truly what you make it, as every relationship and life is.

When you said, “I do,” we know it was your plan to stay together. Nowadays people have many ideas about what it means to be married and whether staying happily and lovingly married for the rest of their lives is at all possible. Many look at lifelong marriages, as if to be dinosaurs living in the wrong time period. People are shocked when they hear someone

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We’ve all heard the statistics that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, and we continue to spread that news. However, the fact of the matter is that according to the New York Times’ data blog Upshot the divorce rate is not at 50 percent and divorce rates have been going down for a while.   This is great news!

And while many are making the choice to stay together, we all know that that doesn’t mean that they aren’t facing many challenges in the marriage that could cause them to wonder if they can, want to, or will continue in the marriage. We’ve met with so many couples over the years, talked about so many circumstances, seen too many situations that could have been avoided or worked through but weren’t. As well, we’ve been involved in the lives of engaged and newly married couples, and couples whose relationships are thriving. All of these couples have things in common:

  • Every day two individuals have to make the choice to love one another and be one through circumstances and situations.
  • Each couple is always changing with the passing of time as every individual is.
  • There are times when couples need encouragement from other couples, through conversation, learning from their experiences, and such
  • And more…

2017 has brought us to thirty years of marriage, and we’re doing a new thing. We’re providing a monthly subscription service to couples whose relationship is fueled by their own relationship with God, called Let’s Stay Together. This service is designed to help husbands and wives do just that, stay together. An affordable fee is a small investment to pay for priceless information that can inspire, encourage, empower, and strengthen you to nurture and find joy in your relationship for years to come. What we endeavor to do is to provide the service of supplying information that we’ve acquired over the years that we’ve been married, with those who would like to receive it.

1969156_10202113175129212_1051327181_nThirty years of marriage and thirty-six together has afforded us a plethora of lessons learned and experiences to draw from when communicating with others about marriage. We’ve had plenty of ups and downs, been challenged too many times to count, experienced better and worse, richer and poorer, sickness and health, and we plan to experience until death do us part. Yet, we only know what we know.

I have been married to Toyea, and she is a woman. I know how to be married to Toyea. I know how to be married to a woman.   I’ve been married to Lane, and he is a man. I know how to be married to Lane. I know how to be married to a man. We only know what we know based on our experience, faith principles, information, and understanding, and those are the things we draw from. 

 

The 12-month membership will include:

Access to Membership Site: Access to membership site with personal password, and password protected pages and content

Monthly Videos: These videos will serve to inspire, motivate, and encourage husbands and wives in their endeavor to stay together, by sharing with them how we’ve done it and how we do it. They will be topical and may include guest couples.

Growth Worksheets: Each coaching video will be complimented with worksheets to further assist in helping couples to grow together in their marriage. 

Monthly E-Pamphlets (Pdf): Each pamphlet will focus on monthly topic and can include discourse, questions for discussion, visual aids and models, suggestions for application, activity suggestions, and such.

Live Webinar/Workshop Access: Throughout the year you’ll be invited to join us for online webinars/workshops, and you’ll receive access to the replays and/or recordings.

Access to Private Facebook Group: Join other LST members in this private group for discussions, articles, videos, and more, to further enhance your marital relationship. 

We don’t purport to be able to keep anyone together, or to be able to help everyone, but we do think we can share some suggestions, ideas, tips, strategies, and concepts to think about.  We aim to show examples of how things can be done in marriage, that foster longevity of the marital relationship.  This is in no way to be considered therapy or counseling, or a replacement for either.   

As we’ve been married for 30 years now, until the end of 2017 we’re offering this 12-month membership for $30 or less per month.  This will change at the end of the year, but if you subscribe now, you’ll always pay the annual fee you began with.  Is it worth it? It’s worth far more than $30 or less per month. What is the value of something that can help you to achieve the goal of a lifetime? 

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that if we’re offering it for such a phenomenal investment, it won’t be worth much. If you do, you’ll be very mistaken. We’re currently offering at this price point to celebrate our thirty years and so as many people as want it this year, can get it. At this point we want to make it where a minimal amount out finances is no excuse for not getting what you need.

Did you know that those with lower economic status and less education are most at risk for divorce?  At $30 or less per month, there is pretty much no reason why you shouldn’t join to invest in your marriage. 

 

Who will benefit the most from this service?

Married & Engaged Couples:

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  • Who individually are willing to engage with one another regularly
  • That are always looking for, and are eager to utilize information and experience of others to nurture their relationship
  • That don’t have a lot of healthy relationships as examples to draw from
  • That are serious and committed to staying together
  • Currently experiencing challenges in their relationship
  • Endeavoring to maintain a positive healthy relationship

Are you engaged to be married, and would like to glean from a couple who has for quite some time been down the road you aim to travel? Sign up today!

Maybe we haven’t yet mentioned why this will be beneficial to you and yours, but you believe it can be. Well, sign up today!

 

                                            Click ‘Sign Us Up’ to register for the                                             Let’s Stay Together Membership

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Members will receive:

Access to Membership Site: Access to membership site with personal password, and password protected pages and content

Monthly Videos: These videos will serve to inspire, motivate, and encourage husbands and wives in their endeavor to stay together, by sharing with them how we’ve done it and how we do it. They will be topical and may include guest couples.

Growth Worksheets: Each coaching video will be complimented with worksheets to further assist in helping couple to grow together in their marriage. 

Monthly E-Pamphlets (Pdf): Each pamphlet will focus on monthly topic and can include discourse, questions for discussion, visual aids and models,  suggestions for application, activity suggestions, and such.

Live Webinar/Workshop Access: Throughout the year you’ll be invited to join us for online webinars/workshops, and you’ll receive access to the replays and/or recordings.

Access to Private Facebook Group: Join other LST members in this private group for discussions, articles, videos, and more, to further enhance your marital relationship. 

We anticipate great growth and benefits for Let’s Stay Together couples! We are hopeful that you will connect with us as you endeavor to thrive in your relationship to enjoy the fruitful blessings of God in marriage.

Inspiring you now,

Lane & Toyea

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Lane and Toyea have been married for thirty years and have been a couple since 1981.  They are the parents of four adult daughters.  As Senior Pastor and an Associate Pastor, the two lead a church in San Francisco, Ca.  Lane is also the Athletic Director at SPSV, a high school in Vallejo CA, and  Toyea is a Transformation Life and Performance Coach.  They have been the speakers for many couple’s events and have counseled with many couples over the years.  

Pic: This was a great time.  We were flying back home after attending our daughter’s college graduation.  She (left) was flying out to Europe for a graduation trip to Spain and Italy. 

 

                                           Click ‘Sign Us Up’ to register for the                                             Let’s Stay Together Membership

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WHAT COUPLES SAY ABOUT LEARNING FROM LANE & TOYEA

Note: The Let’s Stay Together Membership is a coaching membership that can help to enrich couples’ relationships and is in no way deemed to be couples counseling or therapy.  If you are in need of clinical assistance please do not hesitate to utilize the services of professional help.

 

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