I know that there are times when people can really push our buttons to the point where we feel as though we just need to give them a piece of our minds. You know what that meant, right? We feel like we just need to tell them off, set them straight, because for sure they have got us twisted, or at least confused with with someone else.
Have you ever thought, “Someone needs to set her straight, and I’m just the person to do it. She better not say the wrong thing to me, because if she does I’m going to tell her about herself?” Perhaps someone has just made you mad at the wrong time and you thought, “I need to just set the record straight, right here right now.”
In our minds people do things to and around us that on occasion warrant them being put in their place, handed their hat, read the riot act, or just read, so to speak. Its seems that they deserve it. They’ve been asking for it via their actions, someone needs to do it to make them change their ways. Right? Seems right at times but let me share with you three things you should consider before you tell someone off.
I. Consider What It Means to Give Someone a Piece of Your Mind and What It Says About You: Typically we have the desire to do this when we are upset and want to respond to something someone has done. Well, let me ask you a few questions.
- What caused you to respond negatively to him/her? Now before you start to say what this person did, I want to tell you that whatever they did could not have been the cause of your response. Sure, they may have done something that was ‘out of pocket’, but their action can’t make you do anything. If you’re thinking, “They just keep pushing my buttons,” is that that on them or on you? After all, if there were no buttons to push… Perhaps it is the fact that you have buttons that is the real issue? (Something to consider)
- Who controls you? If you feel the need to give someone a piece of your mind because of something they did, who has the power to make you act? If you say, “I did it because he/she did x, y, z, or made me do it,” you’re saying that you had no self-control and that that person held the power to make you do something negative. One of the things we all have to learn to do is to take responsibility for our actions and acknowledge that we are in control of ourselves whether we respond negatively or positively. Before you do anything, you make a decision to do it.
II. Consider the Repercussions of Giving Someone a Piece of Your Mind: In this time of technological grandeur, we have so many different ways to be seen and heard. The internet, websites, and particularly a plethora of social media outlets give platforms to anyone who wants one. It’s sometimes perplexing to see the so-called venting that people do on social media, with no regard for what can come of it.
- Everything posted is being seen by someone. Every negative rant about one person is being seen by another. It’s obvious when posted that the source of the post either doesn’t care that the person he/she is posting about sees the post, or they are not friends on the platform, so they can’t see it. And yet, it’s also obvious that they person posting has no regard for how he/she presents himself/herself to others either. In many cases, we tell people who we are through presentation. Every time someone gives someone else a piece of their mind on social media, many of the rest of us wished they had kept that piece to themselves or at least just given it to that person directly.
- Perhaps giving a piece of your mind publicly could cause you to lose some great opportunities because the person who would have opened a door for you is now not inclined to do so.
- Giving someone a piece of your mind doesn’t mean that you lose that piece, but in fact you establish its significance in your mind and perpetuate a mindset. it’s clear that when we tell someone off that it’s often after replaying a scenario in our heads again and again. This is time spent training our brains to respond this way when something happens, dwell on negativity, and other things that won’t benefit us positively.
III. Consider that whomever you want to give a piece of our mind to is a person just like you and whatever they’ve done to in your mind, deserve what you want to give them, you have probably done it or something like it to someone else. If not the same thing or something like it, you’ve most likely done something that seemingly deserved a piece of someone else’s mind. And yet, we are not usually apt to believing that we should be told off for things that we do.
- How is it that so often we can clearly see the indiscretions and faults of others, but not so much our own? In making the decision to give someone a piece of your mind and highlighting their issue, is it possible that you could also in fact be highlighting your own issue (s) without even being aware of it?
When it comes to our own personal growth and how we relate to others, we are all personally responsible, and we should think about what may come.
Related Scriptures & Quotes
“So then, whatever you desire that others would do to and for you, even so do also to and for them, for this is (sums up) the Law and the Prophets.” (Matthew 7:12, AMPC)
“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” (Ephesians 4:29, NKJV)
“I have learned that I really do have discipline, self-control, and patience. But they were given to me as a seed, and it’s up to me to choose to develop them.” Joyce Meyer