You know, a lot of people spend a lot of energy focusing on those they consider to haters or enemies, not realizing that their greatest hater and enemy may not be anyone other than themselves. The amount of time spent talking about, worrying about, arguing with, or defending against a hater is time taken away from being who you want to be and doing what you want to do.
More than anything, more time should be spent on dealing with and conquering the enemy within. When it comes to being hindered from being all that you can be, you have got to understand and accept that others may try to hinder you, but you are really the only one with the power to do so. No matter what anyone says or does or believes about you, the only thing that matters is what you say, do, or believe about yourself. In the end, that is what will bring results, good or bad.
There are many things we can pin point within ourselves that cause us to not experience the success that we want. One of which is self-doubt. So I’m going to share with you five things you can do to guard your heart against self-doubt, so you can be and do all that you are purposed to, despite circumstances and the opinions of others.
1. Don’t Listen to Everyone
Some people just shouldn’t have the privilege of speaking into your life. Negative people say negative things, and they don’t keep them to themselves. They say then to other people. You absolutely don’t need to spend your time listening to someone who can’t appreciate the person that you are, or what you have to offer to the world.
What you hear and listen to is vital, and it can be especially difficult to negate something negate you’ve heard from someone you deem to be important. However, if you have to, you have to. Even if you have to learn to do it.
You don’t have to accept the words or thoughts of others. Many times people do not have you in mind when they speak. They have themselves in mine, what they want, what they like, what they appreciate, what they expect form you, and not what you have to offer. Just know that. Much of the time when someone offers their negativity regarding you, it’s not about you at all, but them.
When people start pointing their fingers and spewing, if we take it to heart it will penetrate and we can find ourselves questioning our selves about who we are because we listened to someone else.
2. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
It’s easy to doubt yourself when you choose to measure yourself up against someone who you think is the creme de la creme. “Look at how she dresses. Look at how she speaks. Look at how many people follow her. Look at how much money they’re making. She has so much more talent than I do. Look at everything she’s doing.”
No, if you’re comparing, stop looking. In comparing yourself to others and determining yourself less than, you are negating your value and sabotaging your success. So she dresses the way you would like to dress, you look at her and feel bad because in your mind, compared to her you look frumpy and dumpy. Do you want to look as good as her or do you want to look your best? It would be great to know that everyone who read that questioned answered by saying that they would rather look their best than look as good as her. However, I know that there are those who are so caught in the web of comparing that they did not.
What is the difference between the two? Why does it even matter? The difference is that one will have you looking down on yourself because you think you aren’t good enough in comparison. The other will have you satisfied with who you are at your best presently, and will keep you looking at yourself positively.
3. Fill Your Heart With God’s Truth About You
Who knows best about who we are besides the one who has created us? When it comes to guarding our hearts against self-doubt, God’s truth about us has the power to sustain us. We do have to learn to let God be true and every man, every thing, and every thought that says something different, not only be a lie, but be a lie that we reject.
If your heart is filled with God’s truth about you, that you are fearfully made, that you are created in His image, that He has a plan and a purpose for you life, that you are blessed, that He loves you, that He validates you, that He accepts you, that He called you, appointed you to certain tasks, and equips you to accomplish them, then what lie can penetrate? You won’t allow it in because you won’t believe it.
4. Rehearse God’s Truth for Your Life
So what do I mean by rehearse it? I mean speak it. Tell it to yourself over and over, again and again. No, you don’t want to listen to someone else’s negative words, and you don’t want to have your own and listen to them either. The we rehearse things, not only do we say them repeatedly, but in the process we are practicing and preparing for public performance. That’s right, what you practice in private will manifest in public. It won’t only manifest in what you say, but also in how you think, and in what you do.
Your words have creative power. They work along with your thoughts, your faith, and your actions to make things happen. When you believe God’s truth about you and your life and speak that truth continually, you establish it in your heart and mind. After which, you live by it.
5. Act On God’s Truth for Your Life
I’m sure you already know that it’s one thing to know something is true and something else entirely to act on that knowledge. And yet, acting on the knowledge that one has about one’s self isn’t always the easiest thing to do amor many, but it is necessary.
Much of the self-doubt one experiences is there because they have refused to prove themselves. Yes, I said prove themselves. In this world we live in today where too many spout that they don’t have to prove anything to anyone, they don’t even take action to prove to themselves that they can do it, be it, have it.
This is where so many get stuck. They get stuck knowing, and for some that’s enough. If they know they can do something that’s enough for them to be satisfied, and they don’t have to do anything. There is so much self sabotage in this it’s ridiculous, and it may seem that what I’m saying isn’t plausible, but I’ll prove it to you.
For years when I was in high school and college I knew that I could achieve the grade of A in most classes if I chose to, but I didn’t always want to do the work. I was satisfied with getting the B at times. Even when a teacher or professor questioned by ability, I can remember telling myself, “I don’t have to prove anything to them.” I would take my B with my adequate effort, and I’d be on my way.
Did I perform at my best in these instances? I did not, but it didn’t matter because I didn’t think I had anything to prove to a teacher/professor or myself. But here’s the thing, because I didn’t prove that I could get the A by doing it, there is no proof that I could have actually done it, and that leaves speculation.
When you take action on God’s truth about your life, you rid yourself of speculation and you have something to look on that tells you that you are capable. Self-doubt is questioning self, and is more likely to be eliminated when there is proof of ability. So you have to do what you can, and keep doing what you can.
The following are scriptures and inspirational quotes to think on.
“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.” Psalm 139:14 (NKJV)
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11 (KJV)
“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Proverbs 4:23 (NLT)
“The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.” Uknown
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” Ralph Waldo Emerson